I recognize this sooo much, beauty and charm come with a high price. let them back in in anyway and you will find yourself back at Day One, curled up in a fetal position. Plus, women are by nature, more seductive then men. -Condescending attitude toward partner, condescending tone I wish there were more male posters, because women with narcissistic traits are just as prevalent, and often more dangerous. I still find myself missing her quite often, but I dont want to make it look like I am trying to give this woman credit by any means. -Physical aggression which ultimately is the partners fault for antagonizing No one makes anyone behave in disorder ways. And I have allowed it to go on for a very long time (can you say C-PSTD). Indeed they can, Baffled. I guess the best lesson to the narcs out there, is that they are going to wither away completely unloved and alone, and the N survivors thrive. But i wanted him back . Maybe this is a part of his punishment of him. I went no contact with him about three weeks ago and it hasnt been easy but also not quite as hard as I expected. When I say Im in love with you, I mean Im in love with being your sun, monopolizing your orbit, being your gravity, keeping you drawn back to me no matter how hard you try to jump or fly, keeping you down. He knew what he was doing and he did it again. Unlike your ex, mine doesnt cop to anything hes done. Sadly I still Love him dearly, despite losing everything & him calling the Police & threatening to get me put in Jail !!!!!!!!!!. I feel like i have to train for a mental fight. He doesnt want that getting out. While playing the victim all along. He didnt understand because he thought we would be friends i only agreed to keep the peace but as I told you, when I thought about it I realized he had no right to have any access to me. -Telling their own friends and family white stories (not the whole story) that may also be aggrandized to sound better I can hardly read these posts without my mind blowing. So when someone walks out, what it really says is that theyve been exposed for who they really are. Hate that dark weather. He needs to be seen as perfect a all times. My ex really really did try harder with me and I know this for a fact but it was always precipitated by me dumping him. Dont buy it. No matter what you do, dont do, say, dont say Finally Ive found something The look in his eyes I will never forget, they were dark piercing and nothing no emotion. Because now i have nothing anymore. So if your narcissistic ex-partner calls threatening to take their life, theyre more than likely pulling your bluff in hopes that youll feel so sorry for them and be so worried that theyll actually do it, you come running back. Gosh, I dont know. "Apologizing" for their behavior. If you have a domestic violence center, contact them and let them know youre being emotionally abused and manipulated and see if they can open a case for you based on the details of your situation. Just give it time. But i am so F.. volanerble I feel i am not over him yet. But, of course, things havent changed now that youre not together anymore. You may feel obsessed with the idea that by going back over every word and action that took place between you, you can see into the future. Not enjoy myself? They dont know half of whats been going on. I dont reflect his favorite version of himself back to him anymore, and I think he worries that he will have to face a more reality based version when he sees me now. We broke up 9 months ago and it has taken this long to get him out of my system to the point where I can have a normal life. This one was so seductive, so manipulative, actually seemed very genuine at times, and was so extremely attractive to look at. He is now with that other person. It was sweet but I couldnt let what he did go addressed, so I politely outlined how I was hurt and lovingly explained what I thought his issues were. So, does this mean, he is not into her and wants to come home but making it hell for me to show power and control. More pain will come to you. Or if he apologizes he expects everything to immediately go back to normal. Some nerve speaking to ur children tho. Of course theres the comments that his life is way better than mine, slotting in sly remarks, but trying to maintain the perfect faade that he is untouchable and the dream partner girls drool over That he truly still loves and cares for me laying on the oozing charm and sympathy tears, wanting only friendship. I can see youre struggling to figure out. This so-called questionable source may be because he has lied about some stuff and its his way of trying to backtrack. On the other hand, if youre aware of this, and changing the narcissist isnt your motivation, you just know they need a real friend in their life, then go ahead. Hes like so you dont care about the kids? He met her and things scalated quickly to the point he is pretty much leaving me and our 3 year old. He may, for instance, leave out letters or avoid writing out complete words "How r u," for instance . All of these behaviors youve listed are par for the course. It may bec. I find it particularly appropriate to the field of psychology, cluster B, in specifically (Ns, Psych, etc.). You think you are completely over them but letting them in too soon gives them the opening to triangulate, manipulate and mind phuck. Now because i feel humiliated i send three long emails to him. []. Like I said I dont have prove yet and dont want to ask him, just for my sanity I was wondering If they do stuff like this? They contact you . Its hard to explain little signs, like him not sitting on couch with me, but with her. I can say that it was initially hard, but once you reclaim happiness in yourself and your own life, you realize how much better off you are. I dont even know if you desire to changebut I brought it up because often when people are in emotional turmoil, thats what drives them to try to make these kinds of major changes in their lives about how they are interacting with the world. We do that because we are looking for closure and validation. In this scenario, it will manifest by doing everything in their power to get their partner to return, so they can get their revenge and end the relationship. I do miss the good times which were few but not the bad ones. Your ex has discerned that he or she went too far with the blocking and changed his or her mind about you. This is the same selfish shite who left me in debt with unpaid bills, and in the time that he had stayed in my house he had bought two investment properties and of course he also left me his cat. As mentioned, narcissists only get involved in a relationship if theres narcissistic supply available, if not, theyre not interested. Where they accuse you of not making sense. But I suspect now that he has used up all of his tricks he wont come back. Maybe i just miss compagny. He actually hit me with a bag of garbage and then dumped the garbage over all of my belongings (which I was trying to get together at the time to physically leave.) With everything else around me changing I suppose that I fear for our relationship because this is one of the only things I KNOW I want. See if they can provide you with transitional housing until you can get on your feet. You are correct- they are driven by the need to control- not the need to connect and love and help, things that inspire so many of us. I found him again on dating websites, 3 profiles on POF different ages, different names. I cannot describe the way he wrote me, how he behaved, all those words to make me feel so small. And then text message that i still want to have peace with another. I had to go back into the house to get some other items and took them out to him. Luckily we never lived together, we were never married and I dont have kids with him. CAN A SADIST NOT TO KNOW, THAT THEY ARE TAKING PLEASURE, FROM CAUSING THE PAIN (definition for sadism)!! which of course now everything makes sense to me. Lol I love your description of the jealousy with the overweight woman who glares at you!????? So better go trough the pain. I really thought he had gone, truly truly thought he had gone. In your situation it must be even harder. She says she told him as far as I know shes still living there. He was going on with this gay guy. Thanks for the forum and support, its a terrible experience taking off the rose colored glasses and seeing the thing you loved in its flesh. I grew up with a mother who was (is?) She sees that we only deal with him when we have to and even then he is difficult. Today, he showed up at my front door. Ive been discarded like a McDonalds wrapper. Were both the same age. He said he was enlightened by some of my comments (I told him he was turning into a dirty old man, a pervert-he didnt like that mirror at all) and still loved me wants to stay together. In September of last year and six months after disappearing he sent me an e-mail saying he was happy for me, alluding to being disappointed by Paris, saying that I should come see him if I was hesitating on my return to Australia. He started distancing himself from me and going out late with friends, mostly girls.He withheld sex fro me often, to the point that we would have sex once every other month or 2 at most. I thought it was good to have him as a friend because i have no friends here. Poor thing..shell learn soon enough. I go to the park next to my house in the morning before work to relax. I love being your altar, your sacrament, your icon, your miracle. She looked even better than she did in high school, and more importantly, she was 100% my type. The best place for us to start is to begin examining why we began to minimize the abuse and accept being mistreated. Upon reading it slowly Just apologizing in general. Do they send clues or try to spy to see if you are still alive? No Im fine. Does that mean hes getting ready to hoover me? Recovered, very insightful comments! But maybe he just forgatten me. So this is a Choice them make My ex pulled the same crap. I told him that I have forgiven him because I am a good person and because I pity him. He was a chubby boy with glasses who grew up to be a very handsome man. One thing makes her angry and shes blocked me and gone. Now everything is a lot clearer to me. Im not talking to him, never begged him but it almost killed me. So I met with him on Monday. After those promisses with tears in his eyes? One we ALL have. The list goes on. And he is holding on, believing I am the love of his life. 2. Also, relationship between the BPD and NPD. Thats the best you can do? I couldnt handle this so I blew up, he left me the second time over this woman, we divorced that year, he said he had fallen out of love with me because I had become this crazy non trusting woman, and I had hurt him to the poin that something had snapped inside. He also seemed to get off on the attention he would receive on FB from him almost all female friends list. Yes loyalty is NOT their strong suit thats for sure. Thank you for your supportive kind words. As difficult as it may be, the best thing to do in this situation is to stop communications with the new girl friend. Your ex WILL contact you again. And while he may be deeply flawed, I believe he loves me, or tried to love me as best as he could. How to make a Narcissist Obsessed With You? He was an attentive, passionate lover. He says hes happy with the new girl and wants to remain that way. I think this is hardest part of the journey for everyone. When you wrote to him and rejected him, he lied and said it was a joke because he felt embarrassed. Mine apologized for the first time in five years when she realized I wasnt coming back. Maybe its only that. She has control of me Im a copper too! They only sometimes and realy view times they have a connection with his heart. Why are you waiting for him to return? Once youve forgotten and its safe for them to come out of hiding and re-establish the previous illusion of them they think you have, they return as though nothing happened but theyre wary of you now just in case you saw what was behind the mask. YOUR ABUSIVE. Thank you. Yes, but not for the same reasons the average person misses their ex-lover. The last contact i had was from my side. I suppose that is the way of life in many situations but as I said before Im not letting THIS particular situation go without a fight. Jason, from one guy to another it aint easy getting over this. She wants to be my friend because of how she thinks my presence serves as one of her ideal actors in the movie that is her life. I just told her I was sincerely sorry for the news and hung up. I married an alcoholic whom didnt stay in recovery. They are Masters at the art of manipulation. They become overly critical of you. 3. I am shocked at myself..I am savvy.. but his lies and deception shone through and good luck to his new GF ..he wants women with high profiles to further himself.. and I had many contacts.maybe getting so distraught and phoning his Mom was not a good idea.. but hey he said he had his own home yes lies lies lies.. never ending. He plays the system well. I dont care if i dont see you again but i would do anything for j___ (grandchild). I dont mean that. Then, if he does come back aroun. A few reasons why people want the narcissist to hoover. So, I think he sees ME as his saving grace. Where Im from, we call them wolves in sheeps clothing (shudder). . You will thank yourself in the morning. I received a text from her shortly after her borrowing the money that she had a check in the mail for me! Well, I mulled over giving it to her because I made the mistake of picking up the phone and he tried to brow beat me into it but later, I thought it out.he bought it to replace my freezer which makes it a gift, so no, as much as I love his mother, in fact, it saddens me that she wont end up being my mother in law, I only told her about the freezer when I was unloading my plans to leave, which was a mistake. The healing here is astonishing. I need it. Xx. Matt, reading your post has my stomach in knots. We are still in silent treatment as a punishment. A lot of online communities are throwing around the term narcissist but they dont really make an effort to separate it into its appropriate clinical category. Then he moved in as a flatmate and we were good friends (so I thought). Seems to me it was a lie to keep the door open and to justify his sick advances. I let him in my home he changed over night became verbally abusive controlling manipulating . I have blocked him from all my social media profiles but Im extremely wary as to what he is saying to people in general but more specifically to people in my industry. I thought I was going crazy after going through hell with my ex N. I totally agree with anupturnedsoul. Hi guess, I feel your pain . I would appreciate if someone could make this last part clear to mewhat disappeared..? They avoid spending time with you, especially in public. Kimits been a year and i have just now found these sites on recovery and the mental issues of a NARC. She still denied being with him on the weekends she disappeared but I couldnt take anymore and ended it. Does it transfer to the OW? I feel like I want to give her a taste of her own medicine but at the same time I want her to realize her mistakes and do something about it in the hopes there could be hope for herbut I cant do that because its part my fault for allowing this to happen and not acting sooner . Cuz I'm with someone else or i can reverse hoover him or manipulate him to hoover me back. If i argued with her it would blow out of proportions and it would take weeks to rebuild the connection. The cycle begins again. Yet friends are telling me they have never seen him happier. Never picked the Phone up and answer my messages. I know borderlines have huge abandonment issues and the fact that I kept leaving him made him much more desperate to have me but narcissists hate when you abandon them as well. I apologize or Im sorry without actions matching for a long time are not true sorries Cling on to your gut which is Get Out!!! We maxed out my credit. They must devalue and discard their victims because once they are no longer able to absorb and internalize the narcissists self-hate, the narcissist is forced to find a new receptacle. Best of luck to you!! Believe me, since she is not diagnosed, it has been hard for me to pinpoint just what her disorder is. He kept his ex gf pining after him and would act as if i was being insecure, when really he was instigating the attention he would receive as a means to look more desirable. My ex narc recently started calling and texting after 9 months of silence. It could have taken years if this episode wasnt so intense. In fact, your ex would probably be annoyed and even angry at you. After again a night no sleep but now really heavy anxiety. The first is if the other person left. Now i think on my timeline of my life. On the night i realized i had been duped, deceived and manipulated for years, i had discovered pornography in his gym bagsubsequent to this raw finding, i had wondered why he spent so many hours in the gym? "There's something quite narcissistic in thinking that the world cares," Kenny says. Again, take everything he says with a grain of salt. Painful none the less. Like everyone else I struggle with the horrible feeling of missing her and thinking about her all the time.plus 3 months ago my mom passed away too to add on top of things. (Not to mention the danger to ur health as u do not know if he practices safe sex with his partner). I am moving on. She often would talk me up and compliment me more than usual after we would reconnect following a period of no contact as if it were her way of apologizing. Know that many people are in this simulair situation. when he sees me strong wants me back just to see if he can. It was like I dropped off the face of the earth. You cant imagine how many of us went (or are still going) through the same hell as you This blog is one of the best I have ever found since I woke up in 2007, for reliable, thorough, and most of all not judgmental info. We are now threats to them. Actually THE NEXT DAY (imagine what he felt), and the community too. You can find more of his work here on WordPress, at thoughtcatalog.com. I must say this. Why is this important?? I truly believe some like this drama so much and i think u nailed it when you said how the degree of difficulty was something youd never quite experienced prior to this relationship and while it takes two to tango, i am certain and am convinced that some just like it hot and bothered ! Mine doesnt do many of the overtly mean things that people write about. We share a dog together and she makes me feel guilty when I dont want her to come around to see the dog because she doesnt take care of it full-time. Well after reading these messages.. In short, they never really let their exes go. I raged more than him since he drove me crazy at times. Now he refuses to move out and keep professing to take his stuff out. The next day, i found the remote, so I texted him just to tell him not to bother looking for it. Is that because there is something redeemable here, or is it my romantic, idealistic Pisces eyes that always hopes beyond hope in everything? But maybe this is illlusionall because its my Invert N speaking. A retired state trooper who is really sweet. She had a new BF months before our divorce was even final. Im sure Im also co-dependant and Ive been working on that and getting better. I dated a true narcissistic woman years before her, and this person hurt me as well, but she was easier to see coming and her meanness made her easier for me to get over her. I have PTSD from being in a relationship with a narc, which has been clinically diagnosed but reading these articles can sometimes confuse the hell out of me. Jalours on my attention that i give to my sick mother. Oh, and I want to be the first to say that my experiences pale in comparison to some women who have posted here and on other sites. Im here to tell you the one wayhow to know if a narcissist is finished with you. I tried to force myself to like a guy or date and I got nothing as if I channneled the narcissist and this must be how he feels. I told him I really didnt care what he said about me because I know who I am and happy with myself. They usually do, whether sooner or later. .they disappear after they have disclosed too much. Sorry to keep asking probably irrelevant questions. Thanks Jill. The narcissist knows this and will play on the weakness of their ex. This all came to a head when I found out she didnt have 2 children she had 4! As long as youre responding, thats all that matters. I love not being that tree falling in the forest. I broke up with him and cut off contact, but got back in touch with him I said it was to see if we could be friends but really it was because not talking to him was absolutely agonising. That's all the more reason for them to do this is to show people that you're crazy. My heart does go out to all of us affected by these crazy makers. They dont like it when they are busted and they usually stay away from you because they know you can blow their cover. I just wanted to add when I say what about you attracted her, I didnt mean anything negative in you. He is always busy and when he is at a quitte time he feels the love sometimes. What was I suppose to do? The more I read about narcissists, the more I am amazed at what I put up with and how deeply I was manipulated. Why so long?? I am so tired. His suggestion of dating and trying to make it work is simply a way for him to drop by your place when he wants, yet continue his prowl for partners. I went no contact, although not right away. My narc actually made up a lot and told everyone I was cheating on him.. Come to find out that his wife found out about us and told him she was done lol lol lol!! Matt, I wanted to chime in, because I went through something kind of similar. They leave you spinning, wondering what happened, without a period to the end of that sentence. I stricktly wrote him never never to contact me again. I can be attracted and everything but iy doesnt matter I have no interest its like something died in me. For ex, I mentioned above, that NPD and Psycos dont go back to idealisation after the devaluing, but they may switch back to good behaviour, from time to time, if they still need the pray (because not all is sucked out of the person yet). He thought it was funny when he wrapped his legs around me neck and squeezed and I started to try and get him to stop, slapping my breast over and over until it had red dots all over it for days. These are a few I experienced. There are things in you that have become a part of me in some way things that fill a void that had been around for a while regardless of who I was or wasnt dating, things that make me incredibly happy and incredibly confused, things that make me alive. You dont owe him anything. Go beyond the DSM, for ex, BPD is listed there as a separate disorder, the whole Cluster B is described as Dramatic, but o boy! We were long distance, and I seen her a grand total of five weekends is all. But the higher i fly the deeper and harder i fall. I guess that applies to his relationship as well. I think disordered women make far better/effective liars then men in general, so the pain can be even worse for a male victim. My healing is slow and methodical. After years of abuse, they realized they were in a destructive relationship and harmed them, so they left. My siblings, the golden child and enabler. Your ex will give you signs that they want you back but these signs aren't always easy to be noticed. When I finally called him out on his need for attention via social media and with her, guess what he did? Look at his texts. If you can tolerate the emotional rollercoaster that will come with maintaining a friendship with a narcissist, then go ahead. He is no friend of mine! I f you think your ex is a narcissist, chances are they're probably not. What a typically thing to do for a N!!! I just wish it was easier for me to understand her intentions. Your email address will not be published. She is so ill I wish I could help her. I think he blocked my texts and phone number, but I never blew either of them up. He called back repeatedly, sent 17 emails in a 12 hour period. He know this. But today and yesterday i miss him. I STARTED TO BELIEVE ALL THE UGLY THINGS HE SAID ABOUT ME. Her mum and split when her mum had an affair and left. Hi omg the narc i saw for an unbelieval year and a half was insane to think i didnt see it..but in my bordem and insecurity and to be honest my insanity also i put up with him..all he had going for him was his looks..but im in a weird way im happy i went through it..i learned alot..about what one is and about myself..hes turning 59 this year..its going to suck dying alone . To stay friends with your narcissist ex-partner isnt a good idea. Sometimes I feel really light when I remember I am free from all the bullshit. Sometimes they come back to see if they can still mess with your mind but once they see you are on to them and they cant convince you to side with them anymore, they usually slither away. I waitthen text back you can get it tomorrow at 11 am . I let my ex N in as a friend. I know two men that have had narc ex-wives and they are crazy womenjust as mentally sick as my ex. His phone would be carried into the shower and restroom at all times and turned off at night. That school behavioral approach has accumulated a vast evidence, in order to claim once you approach them as neurotics (digging their uncons/subcon) you are done, done! How do you go no contact if the narcissist is your childs father? I was in love with the way he made me feel. Reading your situation makes me feel not so alone after all. Telling them they are a Narc does nothing but enrage them. Till this day I do not have prove that this is his way of getting me to contact him, but I have seen a pattern. He asked about the equipment and we definately didnt talk about anything personal. Hugs. I saw a photo of her brother online and realised it wasnt the guy in the car. And if they cant be guaranteed to stay away, we can stay on a roller coaster of emotion, wondering if and will they will return, and that gives them a considerable amount of control over us. Karen!!! And maybe that is not the case but my guess is the narc is trying to reinvent himself on the surface to impress the new supply but you and I both know who his TRUE self is inside. I feel extremely grateful. When I say Im in love with you, I love having someone beautiful to wear, like a new outfit. I was the one who had changed. On the anniversary of his mothers death he sent a text to remind me. Here are three tricks that the abuser will try: 1. I was obsessing about him even though my life was going well. And this wasnt just in the beginning..he was this way consistently for the entire two years we were together. Either way, you dont want to be him right now. Even if he sincerely wanted to he would have alot of work to do amd he could t be in a relationship whole he worked thru his issues. I am continuing in counseling and it is going well, and I will continue to receive counseling as long as my counselor believes I need it. He refuses to talk to me hes very busy. He now has someone else. I will say that with this latest cut off, (after borrowing the $3,000) she mentioned that I have put you through a lot, and for you to still be my friend through all of it is something that I am so thankful for. I think why I am asking this , is because he used to accuse me of overreacting all the time and being clingy. (this is allowed by law, as opposed to you are the NPD, in this country, at least). Think about that before you break NC. They it seems are not able to Love as we know it, they have no connection to feelings or people, they are empty vessels, they are never happy, they take, never give unless they want something. wonderful post. You are a great person, one who has so many wonderful qualities, with a mighty calling from God on your life! So dont be too hard on yourself. You sound young. And yet, when we became closer, shed act out. That is something that will take time. THIS is Why Narcissists Refuse to be Accountable, What to Do When the Narcissist Downgrades After You, Are You Addicted to a Narcissist (and if so, What Do You Do About It?). A mutual friend of mine and hers had unknowingly stated she was having a fling with a married man with 2 girls who was leaving his wife. the person he would be if he didnt have mental issues (which is loving, and giving, sweet, romantic..)..and this ugly monster that he tries so hard to cover up and keep at bay. Although, sometimes he tried to help me. We can work it out. I married him because he begged me to marry him two years into our relationship. Six months after that I catch him snooping on my LinkedIn profile. (for domestic violence, of course) and then killed in another country. Theyll collect incriminating evidence about you, and when they need to, theyll use it against you. Because of this, I like to think of the final discard on the part of the narcissist as a myth, a hypothetical idea. 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